Your Womb Isn't The Problem... Our Disconnection Is.

In 2025, all around the world, we have some of the most extensive access to knowledge the human race has ever had, and yet we are still in the midst of what many are calling a fertility crisis. And when you break down the concept of a “fertility crisis,” it goes beyond the idea that babies aren’t being born and women aren’t getting pregnant.

From a bigger perspective, it’s:

-A disconnection from the body

-A lack of understanding of the womb

-A misunderstanding of the hormonal cycles a woman moves through

-The food

-The pollutants

-The pace

-And ultimately, a failure to see the Body, Mind, and Spirit as one…and the realization that everything we do matters.

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I have been blessed with two beautiful, healthy children, and I will be the first to tell you that my attempts to get pregnant — and my early miscarriages — had everything to do with timing.

I absolutely believe both my children came in with divine timing.

That being said, Joe and I tried to get pregnant for a year before he got military orders and we were apart for 16 months. And in that year, I was diagnosed with PCOS and offered a drug called Clomid to force ovulation.

Despite how disconnected from myself I was at the time, something in me was loud enough to decline that drug.

Halfway through his deployment, I was able to see him. We spent three amazing weeks together in Italy, and I came home pregnant. I miscarried very, very early and we were heartbroken.

So I spent the next six months before he got home working on me. I went to the gym, cleaned up my eating, worked with a shaman and a craniosacral therapist, got massages constantly… everything I could think of to support my mental, emotional, and physical health. And I let the emotions of the separation come as they needed.

It was a full mind–body–spirit healing journey.

Six weeks after Joe came home, I got pregnant with Rowan.

Fast-forward through an uneventful pregnancy, a determined breastfeeding journey, and two years later, I was pregnant with Thaddeus.

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Thaddeus’s pregnancy was hard on my body. I struggled to eat, lost weight, and was exhausted. Looking back, I can see how much of that had to do with not restoring my core after Rowan’s c-section, but also with the fact that I was undernourished.

My mineral stores were depleted.

My gut health wasn’t supported.

My body had been running a nonstop marathon for years — growing babies, feeding babies, surviving — with nothing going back in.

Once you layer in breastfeeding (those adorable little leeches who get the minerals you don’t replenish), it makes complete sense why autoimmune markers popped up and I got sick.

By the time I stopped breastfeeding Thaddeus at fifteen months, I had been pregnant or breastfeeding for almost five straight years and nowhere in there did I replenish minerals, nurture my gut, or even know enough about lymph to support myself.

Thaddeus turned three this September, and I can honestly say:

I am the healthiest I have ever been.

I’m in a relationship with my body now — one built on nourishment, rest, grace, and most importantly: listening.

My goal is not perfection.

My goal is to listen → respond → move forward.

As I’ve worked more with my lymph, supported my minerals, and nourished myself with food and herbs, my cycle has become more regular.

I used to go six months without a period.

Now I cycle every four to six weeks. Not an exact number but it’s consistent. And that’s okay.

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My last cycle threw a curveball at me, and working through it really made me see how disconnected so many of us are from our womb sensations and how little most women understand about what is actually happening in their cycle outside of “ovulating” and “bleeding.”

As I was expecting my bleed, I had typical PMS symptoms…

but then this new sensation came: immense, unignorable pelvic pressure that lasted for days.

At first I assumed it was my bleed coming.

But when it intensified, I started working with it:

castor oil, heat packs, circulatory herbs- anything to acknowledge the sensation and help things move.

The day after the pressure peaked, I got the exact twinge I associate with ovulation.

And that’s when it hit me:

I wasn’t waiting for my period.

I was moving through a functional cyst because ovulation hadn’t completed.

Stagnation built.

Pressure built.

Energy built.

I was literally feeling the backup.

And when I finally created enough movement and circulation — the cyst resolved, ovulation happened late, and now, two weeks later, I’m bleeding.

✦ A Clarifying Note on Functional Cysts

Every month, your ovaries create tiny fluid-filled sacs called follicles.

They’re meant to hold and nourish the egg.

One becomes dominant — a small, intentional cyst — and right before ovulation, it swells with fluid and prepares to burst.

Ovulation is literally the bursting open of this follicle.

A functional cyst happens when:

-the follicle doesn’t rupture

-or it doesn’t rupture fully

-or it keeps filling with fluid

-or ovulation is delayed due to stress, depletion, or emotional load

A functional cyst on it's own is not a sign of a larger issue.

It’s simply a follicle that didn’t complete the ovulatory dance.

When circulation improves (movement, warmth, castor oil, herbs), the body finishes the job.

Normally, day one of my bleed is rough, and then everything evens out.

This time, the cramps hit harder...which makes complete sense.

My uterus had gone longer between sheds, hormones were elevated while my body attempted to ovulate, and I had fluid + stagnation that had to move.

As I’ve rested through it, it’s hit me how many women feel disconnected from their womb, confused by their cycles, and heartbroken by fertility challenges without ever having been taught why their body does what it does.

Let’s pause the story for a moment and look at what’s actually happening inside your womb each month because most of us were never told.

Everyone’s cycle length is different.

A 28-day cycle is not the standard. Consistency, not a number, is the true sign of health.

MENSTRUATION: The Underworld

This is the monthly descent, the moment your body clears last month’s story.

Your hormones bottom out and everything in you turns inward.

The world feels loud, digestion slows, emotions sit closer to the surface, and your intuition becomes razor-sharp.

Your dreams speak in symbols.

Your boundaries get firm.

This is the sacred void where wisdom comes through. It is a time to receive, not produce.

FOLLICULAR : The Rising

This is the rebirth after the underworld.

Estrogen begins climbing and suddenly life feels possible again.

You get your spark back.

Ideas flow in.

Your body feels lighter.

Your brain feels clearer.

This is the phase where you want to make things, try things, explore things; the springtime of your cycle where your creativity and life force return in full color.

OVULATION: The Expansion

This is the peak, the summer of your cycle.

Your estrogen is at its highest, testosterone peaks, and your body glows from the inside out.

Your confidence rises without trying.

Your words flow.

Your libido wakes up.

You feel magnetic — seen, open, receptive, alive.

This is the phase for connection, flirting with life, expressing yourself, and creating from abundance.

LUTEAL : The Descent

This is autumn in your womb.

Progesterone rises like a warm blanket, turning your energy inward.

Your appetite increases, your sensitivity heightens, and your need for space grows.

You start nesting — preparing for the winter of your bleed.

This is the phase of discernment: finishing, editing, organizing, cleaning up your life, setting boundaries, and facing emotional truths that rise from deep inside.

If you feel irritable, tender, or introspective — that’s your inner bear preparing her den.

However long your cycle is, these four phases are happening.

And when you truly understand them — body, emotion, and energetics — it becomes wild to realize how much we’ve been expected to “push through” as if our bodies aren’t changing every week.

Women cycle.

Men don’t.

They run on a 24-hour hormonal rhythm.

We experience death and rebirth every month.

How can we expect ourselves to function like men when our biology is writing a completely different story?

✦ So my question to you is this:

Can you acknowledge the phases of your cycle?

Can you listen to your body and give it what it's calling for, even as life still makes its demands?

When your body is asking for rest but you still have to work,

can you give yourself a moment of stillness at lunch?

A breath?

A short meditation?

Can you let yourself go to bed a little earlier without feeling like you’re “missing out”?

When your body is asking for nourishment,

can you offer it teas, minerals, warm foods, bone broth, and gentleness?

And when you’re bleeding can you turn inward?

Can you allow yourself rest, comfort, slowness

enough that your body can receive the wisdom that only comes during this phase?

When you understand your cycle, you understand your power —

and your womb finally has the nourishment she’s been begging for.

When I think about what the womb is asking for, it’s a Muse.

The womb is an artist.

The creator of life.

Your inner well of inspiration.

She needs nourishment. She needs softness. She needs spark.

So I created a tea to meet you and your womb wherever you are —

bleeding, recovering, trying to conceive, pregnant, breastfeeding, or transitioning into your next chapter.

✦ MUSE — The Ingredients and Their Wisdom

Red Clover

Clears stagnant estrogen and opens the pathways for hormonal harmony.

Red Raspberry Leaf

Tones and strengthens the uterine muscles, helping the womb move with ease instead of strain.

Chamomile

Soothes the pelvic floor and calms the nervous system so the body can soften into release.

Hibiscus

Cools inflammation and supports healthy blood flow through the entire womb space.

Lavender

Relaxes tension, quiets emotional overwhelm, and invites the womb into gentle unwinding.

Shatavari

Nourishes the feminine system at its roots, replenishing deep reserves and supporting cyclical balance.

Burdock Root

Supports liver and lymph flow, helping the body process hormones cleanly and keep the womb clear.

In 2025, amid what is being called a fertility crisis,

can you reconnect with your body and your womb and give it what it’s asking for?

Can you support yourself without forcing results?

Muse is now available for pre-sale and ships the last week of November.

Knowledge is power.

Trust is wisdom.

And if you have to start in one place,

start with nourishment.

You have the power to learn your cycle.

You have the power to reconnect with your body.

You have the power to heal yourself.